The most challenging sacriﬁce for me as a SAHM, these days, has been that of my time.
I am not a homebody by nature. I like to go out and get a change of scenery. I like adventure. I love to travel and if my husband and I ever have extreme wealth, we will most likely spend it on traveling 🙂
When I was a mom of just one child, I went out on outings.
When I had my second child, a mere 13-1/2 months later, those outings stopped. It became impossible to herd a 14-month-old out the door while carrying a newborn in a car seat. So with this abundance of time at home, I started to resent the very walls I inhabited.
I stared at laundry and didnʼt touch it. I longingly watched the cars drive by en route to their exciting adventures. My mom creativity dried up, which again wasnʼt helpful when your 14-month-old looks at you, wondering whatʼs next!
Now that my daughters are older, they are able to do more for themselves, but they still need mommy to lead them in creative activities. Today was such a day when I was very tired and didnʼt feel like being creative. I practically crawled to their rooms for their naps, then collapsed on my own bed myself.
The afternoon came and the girls were up and raring to go. I felt the walls start to cave in. “If I have to look at that clutter over there in the corner one more time Iʼm going to lose it!” I thought… So, I said, “Girls, we are going on a car ride.”
In they went into their little seats. I didnʼt even put coats on them…or shoes now that I think about it…and off we went. I didnʼt really have a plan. I just drove. As I drove away I felt all the stress fall away with the wind. When you feel the walls start to cave in, sometimes all you need to do is take a drive…anywhere…
We drove to the nearby country roads. I pointed to the girls the cows, the barns, the ﬁelds. Five minutes later I turned around and came home. Thatʼs all it took and I was already a better mom. I could face that pile of clutter in the corner of the living room ﬁlled with the mish-mash of toys and little pieces that donʼt have a home. Problem solved! And it didnʼt take a lot of creativity on my part.
Here are some other ideas I have found:
- Put on some music and dance!
- Go play in a new space in the house. Often I ﬁnd that the girls will become creative on their own when it has been awhile since they have played in that space.
- Ask your children what they want to do.
- Play dress-up. My kids have loved playing “Mary and Joseph” for a week now.
- Pretend-cooking helps with dinnertime whining.
What are your ideas? I would love to get more as I am gearing up for a long winter here in Wisconsin. 🙂