Does every day feel like the never-ending homeschool day?
How many times have you been stirring spaghetti sauce, and setting the table around a child who is STILL doing her math? Do you find yourself dictating spelling words after dinner?
Isn’t homeschooling supposed to be faster than public school?
That’s what I always heard. You can homeschool in half the time they spend in the public schools. This is true. Sometimes.
The way it happens depends on you though.
If you’re working through seven subjects every day and not finding an end to your school day, you need to make some adjustments.
No one should do school for 9 hours every day. No one. Not even college students if that can be avoided, although sometimes we know that it can’t. But your fourth grader shouldn’t have to do that!
Let me tell you something that should help you start to think about this homeschooling thing differently than you have been:
It’s YOUR school.
That is probably the best piece of advice anyone ever gave me, about a year into our own homeschooling adventure. It’s your school. You make the rules. You choose which subjects to do, on what days. You decide what projects are worthy of extended time and which things can be dropped until the next day.
I call it quits at 3pm.
If my boys are done, great. If they’re not, we continue tomorrow. There’s always tomorrow. It is simply not worth the stress to force them to continue doing school work on into the evening!
It stresses me out; it stresses them out. They are tired; I am tired. The rest of those history chapter questions will wait until tomorrow. They certainly aren’t going anywhere!
But just saying “I’m done at 3” isn’t enough for me. I need a reason to be done. For me, that means going to change into workout clothes and heading to the gym for 4:00 training.
What do you have that you can “assign” for yourself or your family at the end of the day?
I good clincher for your school day may just mean taking all of the kids on a walk, or a bike ride. It could be a class at the YMCA, or band practice, or a mom’s group. Maybe you have kids who play sports at a local school, or a ladies Bible study. What ever it is, define your end point and then use it.
When I became a homeschool mom, it quickly became my life, my obsession, the only thing I thought about, read about, or talked about. (My poor husband and friends!) I wore the badge proudly but it was the only one I wore. After 16 years and a lot of kids I realize that I need “me time”, and the only way to get it is to detach myself from that role for a while.
Give yourself time to breathe, and your kids time to be kids.
It’s not all about school work. I wrote a post a couple months ago over at The Homeschool Post, about being More Than a Homeschool Mom. It fits here. You should read it.