Sometimes people annoy me.
I don’t do this very often, but I’m going to drag out a box– not a soap box, but a gym box, jump up on it and say a few words. Okay it might be more than a few words.
It’s no secret that my weight struggles have been off again, on again, mainly because haven’t been consistent. When D2 was a baby I went on Weight Watchers and lost 55#. I was very successful with WW and really liked it. I used their online program and a lot of determination. I was able to not only reach my goal but also keep it off for three years.
Then I slipped back into old habits and the weight started coming back on. I have realized that the key to fitness is exercise.
Back in January I told you 23 reasons for doing a fitness challenge. I completed that challenge in April, with 12″ and 22# gone, and a good start toward my goals. In the process of that challenge I learned a lot about myself, my body, and nutrition. It was SUCH a great experience, in fact, I joined another challenge for the summer. We’re now 8 weeks into it, with 4 weeks to go.
I work out five mornings a week, I track everything I eat, turn in my food journals weekly, drink massive amounts of water, and pay attention to what my body tells me.
Since the beginning of the first challenge I did in January, I am down 38#, from a size 14 to a size 8 in jeans, from very snug large shirt to a loose medium, and I’ve put extra holes in my belt down 7″ from the first holes I wore it in when I bought the thing in December. I am so close to my goal, I can feel it!
I have four weeks and 14# to go, ideally, but you know, I am healthy and strong and comfortable with myself. I’m proud of what I have accomplished in these fitness challenges! My relationship with food has changed drastically, and I crave weird things. Things like protein, and heavy weights, water and veggies, and… oh dear God I shudder to say it… burpees!
The fact that I look forward to my workouts and miss them on the weekends is huge for me. Remember, I’m the girl behind the laptop. But this laptop girl has become a gym rat!
I expected friends and family to be happy for me. Excited even, because I’m just not that fat mom any more. I have energy, and I feel so much better about myself overall. Here’s where I get to step up on the box. When someone you know decides to finally really do something about their health and take charge of their life by way of fitness and changed eating habits, be careful of what you say. And how you say it.
Please note: This post is specifically about people like me who are willing to do the work, eat right, and not look for a quick fix or resort to starvation or other drastic, unhealthy means to weight loss. If you know someone with an eating disorder, please help her get help. She doesn’t need criticism either, but rather treatment and long term counseling.
No please, don’t say to me, “Oh don’t lose too much weight! You’re getting too skinny!” because I’m not. I am only just NOW into what is almost considered a HEALTHY weight range for my 5’3″ body. If you only knew what my weight was when I began, you would shudder.
It’s a rude awakening when your husband’s waist is smaller than yours and you outweigh him, even though he is nearly a full foot taller. You just don’t know where a person came from or what they had to work through to get to where they are.
I will lose until I am safely healthy, and not more than that. I love food too much to do anything else. So please. Enough already. Also please notice that most of the bulky fat I had is gone but I have some nice muscle instead. I am not nor will I be SKINNY. Neither will I be a muscular body builder.
Instead of telling others what you think they should do, please do a heart check. If you were me, working very hard and getting a many-years-long problem under control, would you want to hear what you want to tell me? Would it help you, or hurt you?
And if your motives are less than pure, maybe you should get off of the couch and do something about your own extra padding. Ahem. Stepping off my box now. (20 times per leg!)