Homeschooling is, in itself, a learning experience for us Mommas.
We have to learn to block off our school time and protect it. We have to learn to balance the kids and the laundry and the phone and the piano lessons and the meals and the driving and… well, balance everything really. It’s kind of crazy actually, all the things it seems we manage to do in a day or a week. Or not do, because we’re SO busy.
Homeschooling a kid with special needs is a totally different ball game.
We still have all that balancing to do, right? But we also have these expectations for our kids. We expect them to learn to read or be potty trained or be able to get five. Stupid. Math problems. DONE. Without having to sit right there next to our 14-year old.
Or is it just me who is finding herself once again adjusting my expectations?
It’s a trap ladies. Comparing one of our kids to another, or our kids to someone else’s. It’s a trap and I think at one time or another, every single one of us falls into it. I know my 14-year-old is not capable of getting things done as efficiently as my 12-year-old, and yet I still find myself expecting that to happen and I get frustrated when it doesn’t!
All is not lost.
My son will graduate. Deep breath. My son WILL graduate. He will get through his work in his timing to the best of his abilities because we are homeschooling. We are homeschooling so that he can do this.
So we took a step back. We had a little family meeting with the boy. He acknowledged he’s letting himself get more distracted than normal, and that he needs to decide what is important to him. (Like Band, Minecraft Club, and his MP3 player.) He needs some accountability and Momma needs to lighten up a bit too.
It’s a two-way street, this adjusting.
Just as nothing horrible happened when he didn’t totally potty train until he was 6, nothing horrible is happening here either. We’re still meeting his needs, his way, in his time.
And leaning on God for the strength and patience, because really, where else am I going to pull that from? Hang in there Mommas! You’re doing this for all the right reasons. Don’t try to take shortcuts when there really aren’t any. Keep doing what you’re doing and learn to make those needed adjustments.
Have you caught yourself pushing too much or expecting more (or less??) than you should be? What are you doing about it?
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