Dear Autism Momma:
You’re ON all the time. Therapies and routines. De-fusing and distracting and redirecting. Awake at the first sound from the bedroom down the hall, alert. You live your life around kids. Around Autism. You are Momma. You are strong. You are always on.
Your children are your everything. You diaper them, teach them, lead them and drive them. You eat curriculum and breathe therapy waiting rooms. You know your ASDs and Bal-A-Vis-X, FFW, SLPs, OT and ABA.
And you’re always on.
Sometimes Momma, you get tired. You know you’re tired but you don’t rest. You take no breaks. There’s no time, you say.
You need to make time.
Let that friend come over for an hour while you take a long walk. Take Grandma and Grandpa up on their offer to take the kids out for lunch, and make a coffee date with a friend.
You aren’t failing by saying you need a break.
Rest. Spend two hours being not Autism Momma, but YOU. Be the friend, and go for coffee and pedicures. Be the wife, and have a quiet dinner while making eye contact with your husband. He’s just as tired as you are.
Be yourself, remembering who you were and what you loved to do before you began raising children, and don’t lose sight of that. Because Autism Momma, as busy as you are and as crazy as life is, you are still you. And YOU are worth taking care of.
When was the last time you were able to rest? Do you have someone who gives you a break when you need one?