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BRCA… What?

Two days ago I read Angelina Jolie’s story about having a preventative double mastectomy, because she is BRCA+. This topic has been on my mind, literally, for years. The screenshot below shows that I wrote this post on April 24th. I had BRCA gene testing done in March. This post has been in draft for almost a month.

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Coincidence? I think not.

It is time for women to begin taking charge of our health and speaking up on important issues.

Ms. Jolie’s choice for a mastectomy was not an easy one, and unless you have ever faced the surety of a cancer diagnosis, please don’t judge her for “jumping too fast” (as a commenter said on her posted article). She made the choice she felt was right for herself and her family.

9 years.

That’s how long I have been scrutinized by a radiologist using a large medieval torture devise, or vise, otherwise known as the mammogram machine. That dreaded cancer diagnosis has always loomed in the back of my mind. My Mom had breast cancer at the age of 34. I’m told her biological mother died of it in her 60’s. This puts me in a very high risk category.20130423_233244

I’ve been pretty good about going every year. Granted, the date has been moved several times because, well, I forgot to make the appointment, but I HAVE had my mammogram each year! There are concerns about the calcifications that evenly dot my mammogram films, but they are watching them closely. After the first year of mammograms every other month, they relaxed and are confident that nothing’s “happening” there. Thank God.

I had an incident at work where a resident kicked me in the breast and I ended up with a large hematoma. I went to the doctor, who referred me to a breast specialist. She did an ultrasound which confirmed the hematoma, but said, “This will go away eventually, I don’t see any damage there. I will close out the L&I paperwork but then I want you as a new patient because of your significant family history.”

So the breast specialist and I, we’re getting pretty tight. She has me coming in twice a year for manual exams, yearly for mammograms, and she recommended having the BRCA test, for hereditary breast and ovarian cancer.

I have never been worried about a blood test before.

Ever. Suddenly though, I have this THING looming over me. I was so sure it would be positive. My Mom had breast cancer at 35. Her biological mother died from it (in her 60’s). I have been dealing with boob-related stuff for almost 10 years. It was up to me whether or not to have it done. I stressed over it but finally decided that the only way to know if there is even anything to be concerned about is to have the test. And it’s not cheap. Our insurance, they told me, is  known for either fully covering or fully denying it. I waited until I had the approval in hand before proceeding.

Blood test. Wait. Try not to think about it. Wait. Stress. Pray. And when I’d finally forgotten about it, they called and told me my results. It took 3 1/2 weeks.

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Praise God.

Three reasons I opted to have BRCA testing:

  • So that I would know. For me it means the difference between an 85% chance of breast cancer, and an 8% chance.
  • I have two daughters. If I was found positive, they would need to be tested eventually too.
  • To give my family peace of mind. All of us thought that my getting breast cancer was inevitable. It’s a heavy weight to have lingering in the background. That weight has been lifted.

Does this mean I won’t get cancer? No. But it means that I am much less likely to develop it and for me, knowing that made it worth the stick in the arm. I had to consider the same choice Ms. Jolie did and honestly, I may have gone for the mastectomy too. Praise God I tested negative!

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Top 10 Most Endearing, and Enduring Toys

There was a time when my kids– the Round 1 group– had so many toys that they were, quite literally, everywhere. Every room of the house except the kitchen had an abundance of toys!

I began purging, via impromptu “Mom’s cleaning your room since you won’t” forced donation days. I would go through their bedrooms with a kitchen trash bag, and pick up everything on the floors. Now, don’t get me wrong, we paid good money for many of their toys. I only donated the “junk” toys, kid’s meal prizes, etc. Everything else went into a dedicated closet in the hallway. A closet that I had a key to. This became a sort of toy library. They had to check IN a toy in order to check OUT a new one.

It worked for a while, but as is the nature of toys, they get old and junky, or they break. Well, some toys do. Others stick around for years! Some photos below are of our actual toys, and some aren’t because we have sent them home with grandkids. (Each item contains affiliate links.)

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The 10 Best, Most Endearing and Enduring Toys From Our Home

Duplos

1. The Duplo Set Our Duplo Bus is probably the most-loved, most-used set of toys that we own. It’s been through 5 of our own kids, multiple foster tots, and now 3 grandkids (and counting). It’s not going anywhere soon!

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2. Lego Bricks Coming a close second, and also at the top of the toy-usage chain, are Legos. Naturally! My boys also have a Star Wars Lego set that is pretty cool, but of course it’s all mixed in the big box with the rest of them now.

Wooden Blocks

3. Big Box of Blocks Ours were made by my uncle and my husband over a long, saw-dusty weekend. Our oldest son played with these through junior high, with his buddies. (Notice a theme here? The boys toys seem to stick around longer… but we still have boys at home. Don’t worry, I’m getting to the girls!)

4. Barbie’s Pink Corvette I don’t have a photo of ours because it is boxed up, for M’s girls when they are a little older. And ours just might have been driven by a Ninja Turtle, or a Beanie Baby Bear, at one time or another. This is the old push-it-yourself kind. I think the new ones are all remote-controlled now.

5. Classic Monopoly None of this debit card, automatic money counting stuff! How many of us learned to count money and demand rent as young children, playing THIS game? My kids did too. :) I would have taken a picture of ours, but the box is starting to fall apart and I didn’t want to mess with it.

6. Jenga Colored Harder than regular Jenga, and hours of fun for this family! You have to roll the dice and it tells you which color you need to pull. All of us still love this game! Our box and stacker are long gone, and they now live in a gallon zipper freezer bag.

Walkie Talkies

7. Walkie Talkies Nothing makes kids feel like they have the world in their hands, than when you hand them walkie talkies and tell them to “go have fun.” We have a couple sets, with between a 1-3 mile range, so the boys can go to opposite ends of the neighborhood and still talk to each other. A few years ago they met another homeschooled boy no too far from us, and they used to talk every day at lunch on the walkie talkies. We have also sent 1 walkie with them to the store and kept the other home so we could keep in touch, too.

Baby Walker

8. Fisher Price Push Walker Our Round 1 kids didn’t get to use this wonder, but Round 2 (the boys) plus countless foster toddlers, friends’ tots and grandbabies have used this to toddle their way around our home. The toys are all gone from the front of it now, but it is still the favorite with our 1 and 2 year old baby grands!

Rocking Horse

9. Wooden Rocking Horse Bought by my husband for his son when he was tiny, this one’s a generational keeper. Sure, ours needs new ears and reins (which I plan on getting VERY soon!) but it’s been most of our babies’ first ride-on toy. It has also had the distinction of helping all of the kids learn the fine art of braiding.

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10. Motorcycles Probably not a typical kid toy, but every one of our 6 learned to ride one less than a year after they learned to ride a 2-wheeled bicycle. We are a dirt bike family, all the way around! The only problem right now is keeping up with our boys’ growth spurts. Growth spurts are expensive when you’re talking about motorcycles! One benefit is that by the time they are able to drive a car, they will have had about 6 years’ experience with a clutch. :)

What are the toys that you have always hung on to, that have lasted forever?

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8 Tips for Flying With Kids

Taking a trip is an adventure, and preparing for it has proven to be an adventure all its own. This week we’re off on our very first family vacation EVER. We’ve done RV trips and roughing-it camping trips, but never a real, honest to goodness vacation. Some friends talked us into taking advantage of cheap airfare, and we’re off to Hawaii!

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If you’ve been wondering why it’s been SO quiet around here, that’s why. My brain has been fragmented into jagged pieces, all focusing on one thing (each)… prep for school, printing intineraries, co-op homework, buying suitcases, cleaning/prepping for house sitters, writing blog posts (er, I think that one got pushed aside), packing, meal planning for eating out & cooking in while we’re there…etc.

(This is where a photo of my boys pulling their suitcases is supposed to go. Except that I ran out of time and didn’t get that picture. Whoops! So imagine two very tall preteens pulling rolling suitcases, walking away from the camera…)

In light of our Hawaiian vacation, I thought I’d share with you some tips for traveling with kids. This post contains affiliate links.

Each child’s “personal item” sized carry-on should have snacks they can have on the plane. Purchase juice or bottled water in the airport after you get through security. Snacks such as granola bars, protein bars, beef jerky, or fruit all travel well with minimal mess. As in the case of Hawaii however, remember that any fruit that isn’t eaten on the flight must be disposed of on the plane. They don’t allow you to bring fruit in from outside the islands. 

Small travel games are a must! A travel cribbage board and cards, travel versions of Guess Who?, Connect Four, Battleship, IQ Twist, or just a travel size Magnetic Chess and Checkers can all help to make a long flight a little more interesting. I LOVE IQ Twist! The boys are partial to Battleship, Cribbage, and a magnetic backgammon set we have.

Now is the time for electronics. Let’s face it, kids today are pretty tech-savvy. We parents spend a lot of time and go to great lengths to help our kids to unplug, right? A long flight may not be the ideal time to do that. Let them bring their MP3 players, Nintendo DS, or other hand held devices which will help keep them occupied on the plane. In our case, we still have a very old Sega GameGear, plus and iTouch. :) Remember to bring headphones so they can plug in and watch the in-flight movie if there is one.

A Window Seat and a Camera. Most kids prefer to have a window seat. Okay, most PEOPLE prefer to have a window seat. In your child’s case though, it may help keep him out of trouble if he’s got something worth looking at. Bring along a digital camera and let him shoot as many pictures as he wants to out the window. He may even surprise you with a couple of shots worth keeping.

Teach observation skills through people watching. This is the ideal time to talk with your child about being careful to observe things around him. Beyond playing “I Spy”, you could have him use his imagination many ways. “Make up a story about the lady in the pink hat and how she got the cast on her arm.”  Or have her recall all of the flight attendants’ names.

Other observations can be fun too. Have him use as many adjectives as possible to describe the airplane bathroom. Critique the in-flight movie, or food. Use one of the flight attendant’s names to create a freeform poem using the letters of her name as the first letter in each line of the poem.

Download a movie to your iPad or tablet before you leave. Not all flights offer movies, and some movies offered may not be suitable for kids to watch. Thankfully, technology is on our side, and we can now rent movies via download from the iTunes store, Amazon, and the Google Play store.

Be prepared for the I’m Bored factor. It’s inevitable. Don’t tell them ahead of time every trick or snack that you brought with you. Some surprises are necessary to keep them distracted.

Not everyone wants to take vacations with their kids, but I say why not? Kids who grow up seeing the world appreciate life so much more. And besides, why do adults get to have all the fun?

Do you travel as a family? Where have you taken your kids on vacation?

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De-Crapification: Laundry Room and Linen Closet

For those of you following along my decrapification adventure, you’ll notice I haven’t written about it since it began. I did great for a week, then stopped. So here’s the first update anyway. :)

Laundry Room and Hall Linen Closet

This time, I discovered that my crap tolerance level has gone down, my clutter-frustration has gone up, and it’s in direct relation to the frequency of which I de-crapify my house. It hit me like a lightning bolt as I was working.

I remember the first time I went through this linen closet. It was unbelievable. I ended up donating 11 SETS OF SHEETS after that first purge in 2007. We don’t even OWN that many sets of sheets any more. I don’t have six bags of trash to throw away, or two huge moving boxes of stuff to donate this time. De-crapifying every six months or so has definitely been the best thing to help me stay on top of what we own.

I know that Dana White says in her ebook (affiliate) Drowning in Clutter? Don’t Grab a Floatie, Drain the Ocean! not to begin with an area that no one can see, but I just had to. The laundry room is a room that I see, every single day. It is the room we go to when we need cleaning supplies, vinegar (yes I keep a gallon of vinegar in the laundry room), dog shampoo, vacuum cleaner bags, carpet cleaner, and other things. And I pass by it every time I enter or leave my bedroom.

Dana also recommends putting items where you would look for them first, rather than where it would  make sense to keep them. When we need vinegar for something, the laundry room IS where we look for it first. I gave up trying to keep it on the floor of the pantry in the kitchen, after I forgot it was there and bought a 2-gallon pack at Costco and ended up with 3 gallons of vinegar. (WHO needs 3 gallons of vinegar?!) So we keep it in the laundry room.

It went fairly quick! I had the boys empty the room, and then I vacuumed out the dust, wiped everything down, and did a hand-wipedown of the floor. (It’s too small to bother with the bucket and mop.) Then I put everything back up on the shelves. I tossed the empty laundry detergent bottles and general trash that was there, and wiped down the appliances. The whole thing took about 45 minutes. It looks SO much better now! And yes, this is the WHOLE laundry room. Or closet.

Before & After: Laundry Room

The Linen Closet is that, and so much more. It’s huge, so this is where we keep all sorts of things like board games, my food scale, box of mailing supplies (bubble envelopes, mailing labels, package tape, etc.) along with sheets and blankets. Several years ago I bought plastic baskets to keep everything in, which does help. After emptying, the closet looked like this:

Hall Closet

I went through the contents, threw away a BUNCH of stuff, sorted a pile to donate, and then put it back, organized.

Hall Closet: Before & After

I know there isn’t a dramatic appearance between the before and after, but the amount of junk I was able to clear out of there was amazing. Also, look up there about the word “after” and you’ll see EMPTY SHELF SPACE. The top basket is also empty. That’s over 3 feet of NOTHING up there. :) I love it!  I set aside one sheet set to donate this time. Just one. And one huge comforter with pillow shams.

Now everything is returned to it’s natural place, and all is right in the world.

In case you’re wondering, the plastic bins came from WalMart. They help me keep everything contained, and therefore prevent my head from exploding. Nony, er, Dana said that this is important. (Head explosion prevention.) There is plenty of empty space on those closet shelves now, too, for things that may need to be kept there. Or not.

Here are the results of the first purge:

Donations & Trash Some of the donations and JBF Sale things are actually from the second purge—in the basement, my bedroom, and walk in closet. Updates on those coming shortly!

Need help decluttering digging out? I mean serious help?

You need Dana White’s books! This lady knows what she’s talking about because she spent the last THREE YEARS literally digging out from under the clutter in her own home. She has helped this overwhelmed Momma make sense of it and tackle it while building in habits that most people do without thinking about it.

Get both ebooks, 28 Days to Hope for Your Home and Drowning in Clutter? for only $8.

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