Consistent parents use boundaries effectively.
“What are boundaries? Simply put, boundaries are one’s personal property line. They are how you define yourself, say who you are and who you are not, set limits, and establish consequences if people are attempting to control you.” ~ From the Introduction to Boundaries With Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No by Dr. John Townsend
Are you constantly struggling to draw lines with your kids, but feeling like it’s almost too late? The rules may exist, but they feel un-enforceable. You’ve tried strict, lenient, permissive, structured, and ultra-taskmaster. You’re at the end of knowing exactly how to handle this… person… who now inhabits your once sweet child’s body.
I think most parents of teens end up here, at one time or another. It’s hard to know which “way” is best, when it seems like one thing after another fails eventually. You set rules, only to have them tested and broken right away, as if they were never really there. As Dr. Townsend says, the foundation of the struggle is “the battle between the teen’s desire for total freedom and the parents’ desire for total control”.
What is a parent to do?
Beginning Sunday, June 1st I would love to have you join me for a study through the book Boundaries With Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, by Dr. John Townsend. Together we will learn the purpose for having boundaries, how to consistently use them, enforce them, and reap the benefits of them. The book is divided into four parts:
Part One: Be a Parent With Boundaries
We will delve into setting boundaries for ourselves, so that we will be able to effectively set and use them with our kids.
Part Two: Understand the Teenage World
We will learn the core of the teen’s developmental and emotional growth during this time of change, as well as how they change spiritually and what effect culture has on them overall.
Part Three: Set Boundaries with Your Teen
This is where the rubber meets the road. Here we will begin to set and use boundaries with our kids.
Part Four: Address Common Problems
This section will cover everything from school problems and curfews, to chores, disrespect, driving, God and more.
We will meet weekly here, to discuss the reading we’re doing, bounce ideas off one another, and hear about our victories (and failures). This is what The Momma Knows is all about– helping and supporting one another in our parenting journey.