Since yesterday was Mother’s Day I got to see that rare side of our teenage daughters.
You know, the “I Really Do Love My Mom Even Though I’m a Stinker Lately” side? Yep. Our family, like probably many if not most of yours, has it’s trials and lately we have been dealing with a major one involving our teens. I would never go into details in this setting but suffice it to say I have teenagers for sale.
Of course I am joking. (Aren’t I?) Of course I am. But back to Mother’s Day. 😉
So they got me a card, which was quite funny, but they also each wrote a note inside of it. One child in question wrote me this very heartfelt (I’m sure it was, she does have a heart) note that made me cry. Raising kids can be stressful. Raising teenagers can be baffling. Raising teenage DAUGHTERS can be especially harrowing.
Someone told us that raising teens is like breaking a horse, like in the movie “Spirit”.
They tied him to the post so that he could walk around a bit, but he knew that the post was there, and no matter how hard he pulled, the post wasn’t going to move. He had freedom, but only within that range.
Teenagers need freedom to learn about the world, move around, experience life, and figure out how they are going to deal with life on their terms.
What they also must have is the post… Mom and Dad are that post, immovable, providing the boundaries and the anchor. We have been forced to be rather tough on our kids at various times (those oh-so-NOT-FUN parenting times) but the note from the child in question proves that no matter what, even when she doesn’t WANT it, she understands it and needs it. She said “Thank you for sticking with me.” She said a lot more too, but this is all I can share.
So as I sat there yesterday, eating my breakfast and weeping over my Mother’s Day card it occurred to me. The Lord is right! (imagine that?).
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9